Have you ever come to the root of your spiritual issue and found yourself thinking that God was untrustworthy in this circumstance? What your sour attitude, worry/anxiety, or anger boils down to is this… God, you’re not big enough to solve this problem/ I can’t trust you with this situation because it’s too personal/ I’m capable to do it myself.
I’ll be honest and vulnerable here, I believed some of these things in terms of children. And I’ll continue in the honesty when I say I still haven’t completely worked through this with God.
Without telling you my complete medical history I’ll tell you that I’ve had five live births all via cesarean section and three miscarriages with two needing medical intervention in the form of a D & C. I’ve been on the verge of needing a blood transfusion due to how much I lost during surgery three times and I’ve had hard postpartum seasons due to the blood loss and just general healing from a major surgery. I didn’t have five children because it’s been an easy road. There’s been ups and downs, joy and sorrow. I’m not trying to act like a martyr either for the sake of just having children.
I tell you this to say, I’ve found myself in a difficult spot for the past year or so. I’ve struggled with the idea of trusting God so much that you would allow him to direct your life in every aspect. Through talking with friends, listening to podcasts, and reading articles about trusting the Lord with your life, I’ve found a lot of people will say yes, trust the Lord with that job opportunity, yes, trust Him with a potential spouse, yes, allow Him to direct your life about moving across the country but it often stops with children. That just doesn’t sit right with me in my spirit.
Scripture says, TRUST the Lord with ALL your heart and lean NOT on your own understanding, in ALL your ways acknowledge HIM and He will direct your paths.
Why doesn’t childbearing align with this passage in the church?
When announcing our fifth pregnancy I got more heavy sighs or ‘is this the last one?’ from brothers and sisters in Christ. My thought was and is always, ‘Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: And the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. (Psalm 127:3-4). In light of this passage in scripture why do Christians seem to be misaligned when it comes to children?
I’m assuming that secular culture has played a role in this issue. Secular culture by and large believes and is not afraid to share the belief that children are less than, they hinder your fullest potential, they’re too much work, they’re too expensive, they ruin your youthful body, pregnancy and child birth are too hard, and so on and so on. But are they really when compared to Gods word? I don’t think so and I’ll go as far to challenge you (if you’re a Christian reading this) have you believed any of these sayings? Have you passed on any of these things to a fellow mom or expecting mom?
Like I said I’ve been struggling with the question to God about trusting Him with my womb, with my child bearing years so I obviously don’t have the answers but I will tell you this: our flesh is wicked and our hearts are deceiving. If God says children are a blessing then they are. There’s more to that but I’ll save that for another post. If God says to trust in Him than He’s vouching for Himself that He’s worthy to be trusted and that should be good enough (even though I’m sure you can look back on a time to prove Him to be true to His word).
My flesh doesn’t get to determine truth and the desires of my heart aren’t always Gods will for my life whether I like it or not. That’s just the ‘tough love’ truth.
So, when do you know you’re finished having children? In short, I don’t know.
But one thing I’m sure of, children ARE a blessing and I believe more Christians should be having them. We have the potential to raise our babies to be Christians who will raise their babies to be Christians and the legacy will continue for who knows how long but Gods name will be glorified to magnitudes we can’t even imagine. So, encourage the next mom you see with one, two, or eight kiddos. Tell the pregnant mom of the blessing growing inside her. You have the chance to make a small difference in that woman’s life and potentially her family legacy.
The Millennial Mom 
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